These days it seems that most people are playing The Blame Game. When something goes wrong, the first reaction is “who can we blame?
We are quick to assign blame to the past when we are unhappy with what is happening to us currently. Its easy to react to situation with finger pointing, but its not so easy to initiate and make real sacrifices and make mistakes in the process.
The Blame Game turns us backwards. It is a fight to rewrite history in our favor. It is a game to wash our hands while making someone else pay for the mistakes that were made.
Certainly, there is value in learning from past events; we always say learn from the past so that you don’t repeat in the future.
Learning from the past makes everyone better. Playing The Blame Game shuts down any learning.
Everyone goes into self-protective “spin mode”. We lose the opportunity to find common lessons that all sides can apply to the next round of effort.
The Blame Game also destroys relationships. Trust disappears. We don’t give the benefit of the doubt to anyone who disagrees with us. Instead of engaging with them, we try to destroy their credibility. This kills our ability to collaborate. Diversity is no longer an asset.
The Blame Game wastes the potential of interconnection.
The Blame Game is fed by fear and stoked by ego. It creates panic when calm focus is needed.
Refuse to play The Blame Game. Tamp down fear. Embrace the situation. Bring together strange bedfellows to solve big problems.
Each generation must, out of relative obscurity, discover its mission, fulfill it, or betray it.” — Frantz Fanon
Each generation must ask better questions instead of finger-pointing.
- Where are we now? What’s our starting point?
- Where do we all want to go? What’s our common destination?
- What collective actions can we take now to move in that direction?
Learn as you go and gaining confidence in working together. Take advantage of diverse viewpoints. Generate alignment and commitment to try something even where perfect agreement is not present. Agree to keep steering together as things unfold.
The Blame Game is based on fear. The opposite of the Blame Game is the Exuberance Game. The Exuberance Game is based on a love affair with whatever life brings. It’s filled with the energy that inspires collective action.
Turn off the fear-mongers and the “blame-game players”. Disengage from the conversations that pull you into complaining and blaming.
Create your own ripple effect of exuberance. Spread the joy of rallying together to create positive change.
Place the mission above your ego.
You will discover that most people yearn to work together, trust each other, and get things done for the good of everyone.
Blaming your customers from not buying from you, or blaming your staff, your suppliers, the government or anyone else disempowers you from doing something about your problem.
When you take responsibility, you take power to change the situation into your hands. When you blame others, you hand over that power to others.
Finger pointing never got anything done.
People who are busy doing, don’t have time to be blaming.