The reality is that in order to be creative and innovative, you are less likely to be right all the time, at least at first.
We are obsessed with “rightness;” having the “right” answer, doing the “right” thing, acting the “right” way, winning arguments to prove how “right” we are and more.
It is not only impossible to be right all the time, it is exhausting, stressful, and no fun (for us or others). The great saying, “you can either be right or happy, not both,” is so true.
The reason we don’t take risks is because we are afraid to fail, to be wrong, to be ridiculed and laughed at.
You are not going to make art, create connections, do work that matters and be vulnerable if you are obsessed with being right, with making everyone happy.
Your work, your art, your connection is not for everyone, it is for a few people who gets it (right) and others won’t get it (they will think you are wrong) and that’s okay.
In today’s society connection, creativity, trust, surprise, art is valuable. Just as the saying “when you try to please everyone, you please no one” goes, art suffers when you become attached to a certain positive outcome. You end up changing the art to meet everyone’s idea of “good” and it ends up being “bad.”
While I’m not advocating that we give up on our passions, beliefs, and values, I’m challenging us to tell the truth, stay true to ourselves and get underneath our righteous opinions to a place of deep truth, realness, and vulnerability.
From this place of authenticity we can have real power, freedom, and connection in our lives. If we stay focused on being right all the time, we will “win some and lose some” on the surface, but ultimately won’t have the kind of life, work, and relationships we truly desire.
We have been trained to prefer being right instead of learning something, to prefer passing the test instead of making a difference, and most of all, to prefer fitting in with the right people, the people with economic power. Now it is your turn to stand up and stand out.
To be kind is important than to be right. Many times, what people need is not a brilliant mind that speaks but a special heart that listens.