People always have a need to belong. They always want to feel a need to belong, even Maslow recognised the need to belong in his hierarchy of needs.

Human beings can’t help it: we need to belong.

One of the most powerful of our survival mechanisms is to be part of a group, to contribute to (and take from) a group of like-minded people.

We are drawn to leaders and to their ideas, and we can’t resist the rush of belonging and the thrill of the new. … We want to belong not to just one group, it turns out, but to many, be it a group of cyclists, church choir, a dance group, a group of a supporters of Mamelodi Sundowns, a team of comrades runners, a group of friends, a stockvel group, a work group, a community group, a church group, a political group, a sport team, a family, a team of chess players, a team organizing a major event, a WhatsApp group, A Facebook group page  etc. Everyone wants to belong.

A sense of belonging is a human need, just like the need for food and shelter.

It is most unfortunate when you feel you have no one to belong to, but even worse is when you feel unwanted by people you feel you should belong to, or being in a wrong group and knowing deep down that you don’t belong there. This is like being lonely in a group.

Sometimes it is better to be alone than be in relationship you feel you don’t belong.

Our belonging is more important than our belongings.

As my mentor, Dr Naidoo says sometimes you need people you can count on when there is nothing to count on at times. You need people who go the extra mile to make things happen when nothing around you seems to be moving or want to move.

Whatever the environment or the circumstances, the need to belong will always outweigh the need to be alone, even introverts need someone to witness their lives.

There are many groups out there. The biggest test to pass is getting the right the person or group to belong to.

The best career move a person can make is who they get married to.

Our associations determine what we collide with and dream about.



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