It is okay to be by yourself, to sit still and think without feeling guilty about it.
Often people feel guilty about wanting to take a trip about themselves. It has been instilled in us that wanting to do things by yourself is a bad, negative, anti-social thing to do, it’s not.
We need to honour the next generation of quiet children.
The kids who are sitting alone by themselves drawing, scripting or reading something, teenagers who through their adolescent years develop a passion for art or reading that they decide to explore the world of art or reading all by themselves, these kids should be honoured and not made to feel weird.
I’m not saying a man is an island, or that we should be alone and not talk to each other. That’s not the point of my thoughts.
We are human beings, we love each other and we need each other. Life is meaningless without love, trust and friendship.
I’m not saying we should abolish group work or team-work totally, today’s problems are so complex that we can’t solve them alone, we need to stand on each other’s shoulders to some degree.
But what I’m saying is that human nature has two opposites poles, one pole has a group of people deriving energy from others and another pole has a craving for privacy, for solitude.
We need to find ways of fueling both these poles so that everybody is functioning at their best.
Barack Obama is an introvert and even though he has a busy schedule, he manages to have alone time.
In this article titled Obama After Dark: The Precious Hours Alone, Mr. Obama calls himself a “night guy,” and as president, he has come to consider the long, solitary hours after dark as essential as his time in the Oval Office. Almost every night that he is in the White House, Mr. Obama has dinner at 6:30 with his wife and daughters and then withdraws to the Treaty Room, his private office down the hall from his bedroom on the second floor of the White House residence.
There, his closest aides say, he spends four or five hours largely by himself.
However introverts and extroverts need each other. They are the yin and yang of each other, they compliment each other very well.
The most effective teams in an organization are those that have a balance of introvert and extroverts.
Most marriages [and relationship] are introvert extrovert marriages, where one partner is introvert and the other extrovert.
Barack Obama is married to Michelle who is an extrovert. Barack’s deputy Joe Biden was an extrovert, his chief of staff was also an extrovert.
There is a need to appreciate and honour introvert the same way we celebrate extroverts.
Don’t feel guilty or apologetic about wanting to spend quiet time.