“Love your enemies. Let them bring out the best in you, not the worst. When someone gives you a hard time, respond with the energies of prayer.” — Matthew 5:43-45, MSG
We have all been hurt at some point, likely by someone we hold in high esteem. And though forgiving can be easy, forgetting is the harder part.
So how do we overcome this?
In attempt to answer that question, let’s think about it in terms of wounds and scars.
Those “hurts” in our lives are like scars. At one time, that scar was an open wound. In time (and with the help of a healing aid), the wound healed. However, the scar remains.
We can choose to let that scar be a bitter reminder of the past wound or hurt. Or we can ultimately view the scar as a reminder of the healing that took place, only through the aid of our Healer.
In leadership [and in life], there will be hurt. There will be wounds. There will enemies who inflict these hurts and wounds.
Ultimately, there may even be scars. But our response should reflect the wisdom found in those passages from Matthew…
- Love your enemies.
- Let them bring out the best in you.
- Respond with prayer for them.
I’m not sure that we will ever “forget” the particular hurt caused by someone in our past. But the path to overcoming the hurt involves continuing to pray [unselfishly] for those who hurt us, trusting that God will give us a new compassion and love for them.
I don’t believe in vengeful prayer, I believe in a reaching out and saving your enemy prayer.
Instead of praying for evil and curse on my enemy, I pray for God’s love and light on them.
Prayer should be about love, not hate.
The greatest leaders are not vengeful. Rather, they let their enemies bring out the best in them.
There is no hurt so great that love cannot heal.
You heal when you love, not when you hate.