Givers and Takers: Who is most successful in relationships?

Who, among these three styles [Givers, Takers, or, Matchers] is happiest and who is the least successful? It turns out that the most successful are Givers, and who is the least successful? Also Givers. How is that possible? Givers who learn to successfully navigate a world with Matchers and Takers fare very well. Everyone loves them,…

Givers and Takers: Who wins?

To takers, the game is a winner takes all, a zero-sum game. To takers, there is one way to win, and they have to be the ones that win. They have to be the one that stands out of the rest. When takers win, there is usually someone else who loses. Research shows that people…

Givers and Takers: Signs you are a taker

Takers do the following: 1. They show up when there is something in it for them: maybe you just got a promotion, and they need a job – all of a sudden you are best friends again. It is about them and what they want. 2. They rarely or never reciprocate: you have been there…

Givers and Takers: Which one are you?

  When it comes to your relationships with others: are you a giver, a taker or matcher in life? Givers: are constantly looking for ways to be helpful. They have selfless approach life and are constantly helping others. They thrive on changing people’s lives for the better. They help you and don't expect any credit,…

Less is more: Definition of better

In my twenties, "better" meant bigger, more expensive, higher quantity. And when I got older and more exposed, "better" meant smaller, less costly, dispossession. Today, "better" means more appropriate, ideal, fewer but higher quality. Better means less and small but impactful circle of friends. Better means less fame and more significance. Better doing work that…

Less is more: We are what we desire

Every person has wants, hopes, dreams and aspirations. We all desire something. We don't, however, all have the same desires. Some long to create something meaningful, to make a difference in the world, an experience driven life of intentionality instead of a life pushed toward the wrong side of the consumption continuum. On the other…

Less is more: the noise levels

With all the technological advances of the past few decades, we have become more efficient that ever. But, of course, with every discrete bit of input from our laptops, tablets, smartphones, earbuds, email, apps, and Wi-Fi spots, our world has grown louder. Noise is an unintentional byproduct of productivity. The more we produce, the more…

Less is more: Create something

Every human has the innate desire to create, we all want to add value to the world. Hence, we are all creators of some sort: Some are writers, painters, musicians. Some people scrapbooks, take photos, make cools things with their hands. Every human must also consume, and there is nothing inherently wrong with consumption. We…

Shame and failure

Failure is not fun. But failure is required. Failure in the service of learning, of experimenting, of trial and error, of making things, this is essential. When you are learning to walk, no one criticizes you when you fall down. Parents understand that you do it wring, and then you do it right. But that's about…