One of the biggest challenges with designing a good life for ourselves is that the stuff we measure our days, weeks, and even months with is not how we measure our life as a whole.
The stuff we measure our life with; living with integrity or building a few deep relationships with people we care about for example, come with no awards, no vanity metrics, no promotions, and no recognition.
And, just in case that was not hard enough, there are often minimal signs of progress for long periods of time.
On the flip side, most of the stuff that seems to loom large and feature so prominently in the near future [e.g. work/career milestones or fun side projects] seem to matter for the longest time… until they don’t.
It is not easy to measure integrity, consistency, commitment, and focus. These are things that are not visible to flaunt to your peers. And so we don’t measure them.
Job titles, number of likes and followers, number of places checking in at various destinations are things we can measure and show off. And so we focus on measuring them.
What truly matters is hardly measured, and what is not fundamental, is what we spend our time measuring.
It is the classic urgency vs. importance prioritisation problem.
And, as is the case with most things, it is much easier to talk about thinking long term/balancing the short and long term than it is to actually do it.
PS: This is much like building good products. The foreseeable future seems more important than it is.