Let’s face it. Our biggest obstacle to change is what is staring back at us in the mirror.
The main force that feeds us misinformation and prevents us from changing is our egos.
We are afraid we will be humiliated and our ego will be bruised when we we fail.
As a result we settle for keeping it safe, we do the safe things, things that will insulate us from failure. Unfortunately keeping it safe is no longer safe anymore.
It is easier to fit in and be like everybody else. When I’m wrong, we are all wrong, then the humiliation is bearable because it is shared with everyone around.
Your ego is the factory where narrative fallacies are manufactured, preventing you from doing what comes first in creating change: confronting reality.
“Why haven’t I approached that girl yet?” Your ego does not want you to feel rejection.
“Why haven’t I started that businesses, wrote that poem, recorded that album, shot that video?” Because if I fail, my ego will be bruised and I will humiliated for the rest of my life and choke to death.
“Why haven’t I emailed that person I would love to work with?” Your ego is afraid that they would actually say yes.
“Why can’t I stop [insert bad habit here]?” Because then you would actually have time to, you know, do something.
Of course, there are systemic and personal issues at play here, but your ego plays a large role in helping you create excuses that prevent you from taking that painful first step.
We are all afraid of change. It is on us to fight our ego every step of the way.
Life is there ahead of you and either one tests one-self in its challenges or huddles in the valleys in a dreamless day-to-day existence whose only purpose is the preservation of an illusory security and safety.
People who are more concerned about their image, their brand and their ego, are likely not to take risks. Taking risks exposes your image, their brand and ego to danger.
You see failure, bruises your ego, the more you fail, the more your ego is bruised. The more you are rejected, the more your ego is hammered.
But let’s say you go on an ego diet and eliminate your ego. The more you fail, the more you learn, and the more you grow.
Get rid of your ego, it is holding you back.