The thrill: When it was new

The jeansThe carThe songThe phone The ideaThe relationshipWhen it is new and exciting it is a thrill. But then after a while, as the song goes ‘the thrill is gone’.The thrill does not last forever. It can’t. Newness fades. When the thrill dies, a quieter and lasting type of interest is born out of it.…

Accountability partner

If no one holds you accountable, you are likely to become a law onto yourself. We all need someone who can hold us accountable, not to hold us accountable to them, but hold us accountable to the promises we made to ourselves. The reason people don't want accountability partners is because they equate being accountable…

Fish discover water last

If you asked a fish: How is the water today?  The fish will probably reply, water? Where is water? The fish does not know it is immersed in water, and hence cannot see the water. “Fish discover water last” is an Ethiopian proverb. The only way fish will discover water is if it goes out…

The Dirty Laundry

A young couple moved into a new neighbourhood. The next morning while they were eating breakfast, the young woman saw her neighbour hanging the washing outside. “That laundry is not very clean; she doesn’t know how to wash correctly. Perhaps she needs better laundry soap.” Her husband looked on, remaining silent. Every time her neighbour…

Standout: on what matters

The quick rise, flash in the pan is great for Instagram and your upcoming family reunion…and is just as fleeting. Slow and steady was not made for Instagram… until the 10 year challenge becomes the trend [the flash in the pan] of the moment. The people you have not heard from in a while are…

Well now I have to do it

We all need people in our lives where when we tell them the big new idea, we can’t help but add: ‘Well now I have to do it’ to the end of our rant.That relational accountability. The kind that says: Yeah I will listen to your idea but only if you are going to do…

Emotional independence

“At the beginning of our life and again when we get old, we need the help and affection of others. Unfortunately, between these two periods of our life, when we are strong and able to look after ourselves, we don’t appreciate the value of affection and compassion.  As our own life begins and ends with…

Real beauty

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GRfudKFLAmI Legendary architect Renzo Piano shares stories behind some of the amazing buildings he has been involved in. Towards the end of this talk, he talks about beauty. He says: ______________________________________________________ "Real beauty is when invisible join visible coming on surface. And this doesn't apply only to art or nature. This applies to science, human…

Heartwork

‘In the past jobs were about muscles, now they’re about brains, but in future they’ll be about the heart.’ This was said by Minouche Shafik the Director of The London School of Economics in an interview in 2018. Her words so resonated. The truth is our best work always has been about the heart. The…

Culture defeats everything.

We accept the culture as something fixed, immutable, impervious to our efforts to change it. And because it feels so permanent, we also begin to ignore it. A bit like gravity. But culture is the deal maker, the deal breaker, the energy that changes everything. Do culture on purpose. It’s worth it. We can get…

Levelling up is a choice

Some people talk about continuing education as if it is an option. Of course, it's not. It can’t be. Not in a competitive world that is always changing. Those few who are standing still are falling behind. The few that say that they have no time will have even less time later, when the urgency…

Timelines and milestones

Having timelines and milestones is important. When I was studying financial management, we had a question posed to us by our finance lecturer: When a trader says I made R1 million profit, is it good or bad? Most of us answered: well it is good, a profit is good. Turns out the answer depends on…