Joy of Missing Out [JOMO]: Joy and FOMO


Somewhere, right this very moment, someone is having more fun than you.

Making more money than you.

Doing something more important, with better friends, and a happier ending, than you. Or possibly just better at Words with Friends than you are.

You are missing out.

And somewhere, right now, something in your universe is not right. There is something happening that will affect you, annoy you, make things not “all right.”

A crisis is looming.

Of course joy is hard to find, even with all the leverage, assets and privileges we have got.

We have set ourselves up to avoid it at every turn. Electronic media profits from connecting us, sure, but mostly it profits from amplifying emotions we don’t want in the long run.

FOMO is the fear of missing out.

It always existed of course, ever since we were in high school. As newcomers, we knew that some cool kid was at some party that we could have gone to, but didn’t.

We have taken this far beyond a story told the next day over lunch, though.

The supercomputer in our pocket, amplified by your choice of social media, brings FOMO right to you, wherever you are, with a mere vibration.

At the same time…

The fear-based brain cannot rest until it knows that everyone likes us, that no one is offended, that all graphs are ticking up and to the right and the future is assured.

But of course, the future (and the present) is not perfect. It can’t be.

The combination of the two, the reverse schadenfreude of FOMO (the pain we may feel from others having good fortune) and the insatiable yet unreachable need for everything to be fine, conspire to make us distracted, unhappy and most of all, somewhere else.

I’m not talking about the dissatisfaction of the artist who wants to challenge herself and to reach new heights.

That is an internal discussion, not one that’s measured against the instant updates of the world’s population.

The only place joy can be found is right here and right now. Everyone who is selling you dissatisfaction is working for their own selfish ends.


Joy of Missing Out [JOMO]: Invention kids wish never been created


‘Tell me about an invention you don’t like. Why?

If I had to tell you what invention I don’t like I would say that I don’t like the phone.

I don’t like the phone because my parent are on their phone every day.

A phone is sometimes a really bad habet.

I hate my mom’s phone and I wish she never had one. That is an invention I don’t like.’

At the bottom of the assignment the student included a drawing of a cell phone with a big ‘X’ drawn over it and a sad face staring at it and saying ‘I hate it’.

Jen Adams Beason, the student’s teacher, posted a photo of the assignment on Facebook.

Our kids and people around us shouldn’t suffer the consequences of our fear of missing out.

Besides there is no reason to fear missing out because we are not missing out on anything that truly matters.

What’s trending is those close and around us, not what’s on an app.


Joy of Missing Out [JOMO]: Forget FOMO


“For millions of years, humankind has used a brilliantly successful survival strategy. If we like something, we chase after more of it: more status, more food, more info, more stuff. Then we chase again. It’s how we survived famine, disease and disaster to colonise the world. But now, thanks to technology, we’ve suddenly got more of everything that we can ever use, enjoy or afford. That doesn’t stop us from striving though and it’s making us sick, tired, overweight, angry and in debt. It burns up our personal ecologies and the planet’s ecology too. We urgently need to develop a sense of ‘enough’. Our culture keeps telling us that we don’t yet have all we need to be happy, but in fact, we need to nurture a new skill – the ability to bask in the bounties all around us.” – John Naish, Enough

So let’s reflect on this for a minute.

What if we tried to break the shackles, at least for a time?

What if we said “thanks but no thanks” more often?

How about we meditate on enough or being present or slowing down more often?

How about we embrace the Joy of Missing Out?

We could lock away our phones at certain times of the day.

Turn off the TV.

Read more.

Delete our favourite social media app for a week *gulp*

Take a walk outside and look around, I mean really look around and take in our surroundings.

Spend time listening to our partners, friends and children so that they feel they are the only person in the world we’re thinking about.

Block out time in our calendars specifically for downtime.

Start a hobby or side project just with no intended goal other than simple enjoyment.

Let our creativity and productivity flourish.

Breath. Often.

The joy of missing out [JOMO] is greater than the fear of missing out [FOMO], because you are not actually missing anything.

LORA Entrepreneurship Series: Mr. Litha Soyizwapi – Saturday, 23 June 2018

LORA Centre for Innovation and Entrepreneurship strives to bring thought leaders, men and women who are pathfinders, entrepreneurs and change agents, men and women who have affected the very fibre of our thought processes, who influence our set of beliefs, and engage our mindsets in elements of value.

LORA has invite experienced entrepreneurs and innovators to share their stories with us.

On Saturday, 23 June 2018, we are hosting entrepreneur Mr. Litha Soyizwapi.

Litha Soyizwapi is a graphic designer and a self-taught iOS developer based in Johannesburg, South Africa.

He is a creator of the GauRider app, an iOS app for Gautrain, a rapid rail service that connects Johannesburg, Pretoria & OR Tambo International Airport in South Africa.

A problem lover, a solutions guy. A designer who believes creativity and design thinking can change the world. “Simple and elegant solutions for everyone”.

He loves everything art, design and programming related; Graphic design, Industrial Design, Architecture, Motion Graphics, Computer Programming, Music Production and Product Design.

Litha was a speaker at TEDxSoweto 2014, TEDxJohannesburg 2015 and Release Notes 2016.

He recently spoke at Layers 2018 conference  in San Jose, USA which took place from 04 to 06 June 2018.

Come join us and interact with Mr. Litha Soyizwapi on his innovation journey.

Date: Saturday, 23 June 2018

Time: 13:00 – 14:30

Charge: R100  

Space is very limited.

To RSVP and pay:

[LORA Centre students and alumni get 100% discount]

Venue: Midrand [3 Tybalt Place, Waterfall Office Park, Bekker Road, Vorna Valley, Midrand. [there is secured parking]


The StartUp Revolution One-Day Workshop

StartUp Revolution Book Cover

Brought to you by The LORA Centre for Innovation and Entrepreneurship, The StartUp Revolution is a one day startup workshop on entrepreneurship and innovation.

The workshop takes place on Saturday, June 16, in Midrand [Johannesburg] from 0900 to 1600 and is limited to Ten [10] delegates only at R150. First come, first served.

If you know someone who might benefit from this, I hope you will tell them about it.

This is for you if:

  • You are ready to think hard about creating a startup;
  • You are about to leave your job and start something new;
  • You already have a new business but you don’t have a lot of revenue yet and you are open and able to change everything;
  • You are looking to join a startup at the very earliest stages and want to either find some partners or think harder about what works and what doesn’t; and
  • It is even useful for the leader of a team of an existing startup that has resources but needs a new path to success.

This event is not inexpensive, but starting a new business is not either. It is not for everyone, but I’m hoping to a find a 10 entrepreneurs who want to more deeply understand the strategic and marketing decisions that go into building a business that thrives.

Workshop Content:
1. The Startup Revolution
2. Freelancer or Entrepreneur?
3. Exponential Technology
4. Catalytic Innovation
5. Appealing to Consumers
6. Permission and Trust
7. Raising Money and Cash Flow
8. Advertising and Competitors
9. Making Ideas Travel
10. Building systems and processes
11. Creating a culture for your startup
12. How to measure your success

The will discuss various case-studies, we will watch various entrepreneurship videos and exercises.

The first hours of the workshop we will talk about strategy, ways to go to market, organisation, bootstrapping, raising money [pros or cons or how], storytelling [to the public and to the investment community], the economic structure of your offering [free, expensive or in-between] and staffing choices.

I’m very interested in helping you see the relationship between scale and resources and effort.

There will certainly be a bias toward businesses that use can grow to employ more people, but not exclusively. I also have a bias toward bootstrapping, but having raised money, can share insight there as well.

A startup is a special moment of time, when all decisions are on the table, when you have a clean sheet of paper to think hard about strategy and how you will create value.

I’m most interested in two things:

  • Discussing how you can re-architect and re-organise your plans to make them considerably more likely to succeed
  • Helping you engage with other entrepreneurs in the same stage of development to help you dramatically increase your skills at the same time you help them.

I have a few business plans to share for new businesses that you’re welcome to take and morph and run with, and you should bring your own business plan or come ready to invent one.

I’ll be talking about innovative business ideas, websites and businesses that start from virtually nothing but scale. We won’t be spending a lot of time trying to fix your ailing (or stable) business, but we are all going to be focused on building something worth doing.

You will spend the day with other attendees in small group work, designing multiple scenarios to present to the group at the end of the day. Lunch is included.

We usually run from 09:00 to about 16:00, with group work included.

There are 10 seats, maximum.

Venue: Midrand [3 Tybalt Place, Waterfall Office Park, Bekker Road, Vorna Valley, Midrand.

The cost works out to R150 for the day, for the full day including tea and coffee but excludes lunch, please bring your own lunch.

Includes coffee and all the ideas you can take with you. In exchange, you bring your ideas, your enthusiasm and your willingness to challenge and be challenged. Because this is such a small event, ticket sales are non-refundable, but happily transferable if you can’t make it and can find someone who can.

To RSVP please email:

Space is open to 10 pathfinders who are aspire to start or continue to do work that matters.

Dr. Roche Mamabolo Profile

Roche is a qualified accountant, an entrepreneur, author, training facilitator and business mentor. He is a founder of an Entrepreneurship Academy called The LORA Centre for Innovation and Entrepreneurship. He wrote his debut book: The Start-up Revolution: Fit In or Stand Out in 2014.

He is passionate about entrepreneurship, innovation and technology. He blogs everyday, His blog [which you can find by typing “Roche Mamabolo blog” into Google] is one of the most followed in the country.

He writes about the post-industrial revolution, the way ideas spread, innovation, leadership and most of all, changing everything.

Roche holds a B.Com (Accounting) Honours, MBA in Finance and PhD in Entrepreneurship.


Dr. Lucas Moloi Profile

Dr Moloi is the Founder and Chief Executive Officer of the Junto Group, a young black owned and managed company with interests in Property, Entertainment, Consulting, etc.

He has previously worked with Umsobomvu Youth Fund as the quality manager, Eskom as a Quality Advisor and assisted 12 of the 42 Public FET Colleges to be ISO certified and worked with SEDA Technology Programme in assisting SME’s with Quality Management.

Dr Moloi is former Chairman of The South African Quality Institute (SAQI) since 2010. Lucas is deputy chairperson of Vuka Advisory Board of Directors for SMEs. Vuka Board is an organization that mentors, advises and directs small businesses from various industries.

He holds a Postgraduate certificate – Innovative futures, Strategic and scenario planning from Stanford University, United States of America. Lucas is also author of The Everyday Battlefield.

10 Quotes on your Entrepreneurship Marathon


No one ever said it was easy being an entrepreneur.

Whether you’re in the early stages of your statrup, just secured funding for your startup or you are ready for product launch, there will always be those three components when you ask yourself if this whole entrepreneur thing is worth it.

Starting and running a business is like running a marathon.

The hours are long, you need energy, stamina, endurance, patience, a business will challenge you physically and mentally and requires the same traits.

Entrepreneurship is a marathon not a sprint.

You need a lot of encouragement when running. Some of the things that keeps runners going is the excitement, words of encouragement, shouts of support and love from the spectators.

When the going gets tough, instead of giving up and throwing-in the proverbial white towel, here are some of the quotes that keeps me going, I hope they will inspire to keep running [your business]:

  1. “You want to be extra rigorous about making the best possible thing you can. Find everything that’s wrong with it and fix it.” — Elon Musk
  2. “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other people’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.” — Steve Jobs

  3. “Surround yourself with people that really believe in you… I found, especially when I was working while starting this business, that there will be moments when you are really down, scared or worried, and just aren’t ready for some of the challenges and the setbacks. It demands a lot of patience and courage, but that courage comes from the people around you.”  Saheel Shah
  4. “I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. 26 times I have been trusted to take the game’s winning shot and missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life and that’s why I succeed.” – Michael Jordan

  5. “Sometimes you fix one problem and another arises. So you have to be focused, be flexible, and be willing to adapt to changes. Going into employment can be tempting – but I stay put knowing that I will achieve my goals one day, even if it takes 10 years.” – Sam Turyatunga
  6. “Businesses that are spoilt with too much capital make the wrong decisions. Constraints are the most wonderful things in business, because constraints allow you to be innovative and come up with different solutions.” – Michael Jordaan
  7. “It doesn’t matter how many times you almost get it right. No one is going to know or care about your failures, and neither should you. All you have to do is learn from them and those around you because all that matters in business is that you get it right once. Then everyone can tell you how lucky you are.” – Mark Cuban

  8. I knew that if I failed I wouldn’t regret that, but I knew the one thing I might regret is not trying.— Jeff Bezos
  9. “It always seems impossible until it’s done.” – Nelson Mandela
  10. “The only thing worse than starting something and failing… is not starting something.”– Seth Godin

One of us is in trouble: and is hiding


You should see who is here [online, at the office, wedding, church or mall] this morning:

The Khumalos are here, and the Dlaminis, and the Kgapola family is here, and little Mpho is here, and little Marry is here, and little Marry-Sue is here, and sister Suicide is here, and little Ms Depression is here too, and little Mr Fearful, and little Mr Tired-To-Be-Married is here, and Brother I-Want-To-Get-Out-Of-School is here, and there is Sister I-Quit, there is Brother I-Think-Im-Gay, there is Sister I’m-Confused, and

Everybody is here, but you can’t see them because we hide who we really are and we show people what we think they can handle.

And then we go home and take off the musk and become who we really are.

The reason you are lonely, even when we are in a crowd is because having people around you does not create intimacy because all you do is work, showing them who you would like to be, rather than showing them who you really are.

What will stop you from being lonely is intimacy, being real, authentic.

Intimacy means into-me-see.

It is when you are intimate, authentic and real that you are free, until then, you will have a twin and when you do, one of us is in trouble.

I’m not talking about the one you are showing us now, the well manicured, good looking, suited-up, all got-it-together you, that one you want us to see.

I’m referring to the real you, the one you are hiding.

Because behind most “I am okay” there is a hidden “I need you.”

I hope and pray that this long rant will help the one inside you, the one people don’t see, that one who struggles to sleep in the middle of the night, to take the musk off, to be free, to forgive yourself, and keep trying.

Please believe again.

Believe in the real you.

The real you that you have ignored and neglected.

The real you that needs healing.

The real you that you have been running away from for so long.

Believe again.

Believe more in the inner you, the hidden you, the real you.

I’m not talking about the corporate guru you, not the best speaker or writer you, not the church-going, bible carrying you, not the PR-ed you. You see, the PR-ed you is okay, is doing fine, is la-li-da.

I’m talking about the real you.

Consider taking a break from building this personal brand. Personal brand is the outer you, the PR you, the you you are projecting to the world.

You are not a brand, you are not your job-title, you are not the company you work for or started, you are not your connections with high people, you are a human being, a brother, sisters, father, child.

You are a human being with flaws and scars that needs healing, not hiding.

Your true brand and personality is not the outer you but the inner you, is not the person you project to the world but the person you hide from the world.

Believe more in the inner you than the one you are projecting to us.