A Legacy of Peter Moleme Mamabolo

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My dad passed away last Saturday, 12 November 2016. He was 68.

He taught my brother and me so many things that we will always be grateful for.

Thank you for teaching us the love of books.

Thank you for teaching us the value of hard work.

Thank you for reminding us how much it mattered to care.

Thank you for teaching us the importance of discipline and sacrifice.

Thank you for teaching us to take initiative, to pick ourselves up, not wait to be picked.

Thank you for teaching us humility.

Thank you for teaching us the power of sitting down and hashing out issues instead of screaming about issues standing up.

Thank you for teaching us gratitude and to say “Thank You.”

Thank you for teaching us to always be positive. Even in your darkest hour, you remained hopeful.

Death might think it has won, but our love for you will always win.

Thank you for teaching me not to seek attention and spotlight but to seek and do work that matters, and give attention and reflect the spotlight to others.

Thank you for believing in us.

Your impact on us will live forever in our hearts.

I tried all my best to help you recover from your illness, but my best was not enough. I’m sorry that I couldn’t help you heal. I really tried.

Thank you Peter Moleme Mamabolo.

Thabo and myself will miss you so so much.

Until we meet again, robala ka kgotso Kolobe Ya Bjatladi.

 

Abundance or Scarcity: Which way do you live?

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Scarcity mentality;

  • There will never be enough;
  • Believes the pie is shrinking;
  • Competes to stay on top;
  • Seeks attention, me mentality;
  • Hoardes things from others
  • You have to lose, if I am to succeed;
  • Will not share knowledge;
  • Will not offer help to others;
  • Secretly hopes others fail;
  • Suspicious of others;
  • Exclusion;
  • Promotes only self and accomplishments;
  • Afraid of being replaced;
  • Thinks small and avoids risks;
  • Fears change.

Abundance mentality:

  • There will always be more;
  • Believes the pie is growing;
  • Let me help you, as you grow, I grow;
  • Collaborates to stay on top;
  • If I succeed and you succeed, we all succeed;
  • Shares knowledge;
  • Gives attention;
  • Want others to succeed;
  • Freely offers help to others;
  • Inclusion;
  • Promotes others and their accomplishments;
  • Strives to grow;
  • Believes the best is yet to come;
  • Does not seek to control, but to empower.

 

Abundance or Scarcity: And the connected world

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We are moving out of the industrial age, an economy based on scarcity and into a connection economy based on abundance, abundance of  choice, connections and access to knowledge.

In our new connection economy where it is easier to connect with anyone in the world, we can connect with more people and leverage our skills at a higher level.

This is leading to two races:

  • A race to the bottom which is forcing us to lower our prices, because it is easy to find plenty of people who will do something cheaper; or
  • A race to the top which gives us the opportunity to use our new connections, resources and knowledge and become the one “they can’t live without.”

The connection economy does not create jobs where we get picked and then get paid; the connection economy builds opportunities for us to connect, and then demands that we pick ourselves.

It is no longer sufficient to just do your job and get paid a good salary; a connection economy is all about standing out and not fitting in, it is about being remarkable, not average.

We need to invent, not duplicate.

So how do we stand out in a world of abundance and noise?

I believe we need to be authentic and true to ourselves.  We need to take the ultimate risk and listen to that voice inside because that is the voice that should be heard.

We need to be vulnerable in order to race to the top. 

At the end of the day, we are all human and we can spot a fake or an imitation when we see one.

Most of all we need to remember, we are human beings with basic human needs, one being the need to connect with our fellow human.

We do not connect merely on devices alone, you connect by telling your story. If your story resonates with others, it spreads.

Today that means it gains traction quickly and spreads globally.

But you do not connect with people by doing the same things as everyone else or regurgitating the same information.  You make connections because people are human and they will always spot “the real deal” in a crowd.

So be vulnerable, be different, be brave enough to stand out with a fresh approach to old problems and you will not need to race to the bottom along with others clamoring for those scarce jobs. 

You will be the one carving out the opportunities and picking yourself.

Abundance or Scarcity: Enough

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In the scarcity mindset, all that matters is how you compare to others.

In the abundance mindset, what matters most is how you compare to yourself, how you live out your own ideals in your day-to-day life.

Social media encourages scarcity mentality.

On social media, people often post highlights of their life, showing off all of the good things going on, but avoiding the mundane things and (usually) the bad things.

If you spend time comparing the whole of your life to someone else’s highlights, you are going to naturally feel inadequate.

Social media will make you will feel you are not enough, you will feel you need to get more and more things, check-in at fancy events, check-in at airports slow-lounge, post a selfies with important people.

You compare yourself to your peers, whilst a middle class individual compares themselves to a millionaire, a millionaire compares himself to a multi-millionaire and a multi-millionaire compares himself to a billionaire. Who does a billionaire compare himself to? A god, a mega celebrity or an esteemed historical figure. There is an insatiable appetite for glory manifesting as scarcity among most of humanity, even among the wealthy.

The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scene with everyone else’s highlight reel.

If you are struggling with comparing yourself to others, cut back on Facebook and other forms of social media. Instead, focus on thinking about what you can do right now to make your life better.

There is more than enough for everyone.

There is enough pie to go around, there is no need to compare yourself to others.

I think we each need to be confident that we are enough. Each of us, innately, is enough. We don’t need validation from Facebook likes, retweets, or attention-seeking.

And beyond that, we have enough.

We have enough time, we have enough talent, we have enough energy. And if we don’t, we have enough intelligence to go find it.

We each have to find our own ways of getting what we need. If we don’t, it won’t be because there is not enough. There is enough.

You are enough, you are so enough it is unbelievable how enough you are.

Abundance or Scarcity: The joy of not being sold anything

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Almost every form of media, in some way, revolves around cultivating desire for things you don’t have, which is a key element of the scarcity mindset.

Advertisements are particularly nasty in this regard, but that is just the first piece of the equation.

Quite often, the programs themselves [or the articles, if you are looking at written media like websites and newspapers and magazines] are written in a way to cultivate desires.

You watch TV, you get to see things you don’t have, the scarcity mentality then sets in and you know what you want to buy the next day.

TV is like one long cat-walk stage. You watch Suits or The Fixer, you already know what you need to buy at month end, a suit or smart formal dress.

You are bombarded with adverts on your way to work, billboards trying to sell you something, adverts on social media selling you something, adverts everywhere at the Gautrain while waiting for the train, at the airport, in newspapers, radio, friends selling you something.

The best way to battle that onslaught is to simply reduce your media consumption.

Take an hour where you might have watched television or browsed the web and instead spend it doing something outside with your hands.

Use that time to do something to improve yourself in some way.

Media drives the scarcity mentality.

Peace of mind is the joy of not being sold anything.

Abundance or Scarcity: There is enough for everyone

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You breathe in. You breathe out.

I breathe in. I breathe out.

We both need oxygen to survive.

Would you worry that there would not be enough oxygen for both of us? Of course not, air is abundant.

Abundance mentality is the paradigm that says there is plenty out there and enough to spare for everybody.

It results in sharing of prestige, of recognition, of profits, of decision making.

It opens possibilities, options, alternatives, and creativity.

Typically, the abundance mentality focuses on the long term.

It involves a deep understanding that just because you do not get to have something right now does not mean you will not be able to have it later.

There is no need for the stampede to get to be the first in line.

Skipping a party right now does not mean you will never be able to have a good time again.

Someone else getting a raise or promotion at work does not mean you will never get a raise or promotion.

Another person finding a nice relationship is not a source of jealousy, it is a source of genuine happiness for that person, because you know that person’s happiness does not take anything away from you.

Abundance mentality mean you become less paranoid and too much money does not give you itchy hands.

Something will come around. It always does.

I think the world can be a better place should all the people across nations adopt the abundance mentality mindset.

Nature provides for all but scarce mentality mindsets makes it difficult for fellow inhabitants.

There is enough for everyone.

Poverty is created by leaders who have scarcity mentality.

Leaders who only think of themselves, their own followers, countries only at the expense of other nationalities.

We celebrate our leaders because they are doing very well for us and only us, we are oblivious to the sufferings of people in other countries.

Matured leaders are leaders who make decisions for the greater good of the world, not necessarily of the people they are leading.

Scarcity mentality says as long as we are happy, that is what matters.

Abundance mentality is about connecting to people, doing work that truly matters, bringing remarkable change.

LORA Entrepreneurship Series: Lynette Magasa – Saturday, 12 November 2016

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LORA Centre for Innovation and Entrepreneurship strives to bring thought leaders, men and women who are pathfinders, entrepreneurs and change agents, men and women who have affected the very fibre of our thought processes, who influence our set of beliefs, and engage our mindsets in elements of value. 

LORA has invited 10 experienced entrepreneurs to share their stories with us. On Saturday, 12 November 2016, we will host Lynette Magasa, founder of Boniswa Corporate Solutions.

Lynette Magasa sold fish and chips at her grandmother’s shop during her school holidays. Today she heads her own firm, which operates in SA and the rest of the continent.

She started her career at state-owned defence technology conglomerate Denel as a receptionist while she studied human resources. She was soon was promoted to a human resources administrator’s post.

Three years later, she moved to Sambou Bank, where she was responsible for creating financial packages for corporate clients.

Behind her drive to succeed was her determination to study, which she has done with hardly a break for nearly all her working life.

She has a national diploma in logistics, a BTech in IT and is currently working for her master’s in IT.

Today, Boniswa’s annual turnover is about R35 million and it employs 70 people, ranging from engineers and technicians to administrative staff and cleaners.

Her inclusive approach means she never talks about “my company”. It is always “our company”.

Lynette Magasa was a finalist in the 2013 Topco Top Women Awards and the winner of the BBQ 2013 Trade and Investment KZN New and Innovative Business award.

Come join us and interact with Ms Lynette Magasa and other like-minded entrepreneurs.

Date: Saturday, 12 November 2016

Time: 13:30 – 15:00

Charge: R100 (LORA Centre students get 100% discount)

Venue:

eNitiate, 
Building A, Country Club Estate, 
21 Woodlands Drive, 
Woodmead, 
Gauteng South Africa

(there is secured parking)

To RSVP online: www.loracentre.com